Do You Listen to Your Gut?
You know that feeling when your stomach lurches at the thought of having to speak to someone you don’t know or the thought of the unknown. That tingle of excitement (or dread) when you are preparing for a serious talk, a meeting or an interview. You get the rush afterwards, knowing you did great and you nailed it! You don’t know why - you just know! Have you ever woken up in the morning and YOU JUST KNOW it is going to be a good day?
There is a reason why this happens. It’s because, deep down, knowing what works for you is innate. It started when you were born. As babies, we have a natural and strong survival instinct. We found ways to get attention from our carer so that we are fed, changed, cuddled and talked to. As we grow, our actions help develop our communication skills. So by the time we are adults we should know what we want and how to get it, right? Well, erm maybe...
The thing is, it was easy when we were young, our needs were likely immediately met and our distractions and obligations were less. Depending on our experience, we could cry loudly and be heard and (hopefully) given what we needed at that moment.
We were very in touch with our needs back then so what happened later on? Distracted by the noise of everyday life, it is easy to lose recognition of our true needs. Your phone is constantly pinging away all day. Work, family and friends constantly want your attention and it can be hard to switch off when you feel you should be doing something or doing nothing.
How Do You Realise What You REALLY Want
There is a way - Here is how. Are you sitting comfortably? Relax and let’s begin…
Relax, get still and move away from the noise.
We are continually in noise.
Which is why we have to intentionally set a time to be quiet and just...be.
It’s one of the reasons why meditation has come along leaps and bounds recently.
When you make space to just be and give it enough practice, you can begin to listen to yourself again. The quiet also gives you the opportunity to feel YOUR true feelings. Not your reactions, that’s a different thing. Get to your true feelings and then explore. When you explore your feelings, you can understand why you were hurt, angry, happy, indifferent or otherwise and connect with that feeling, then move on.
Do this often, get better at it and we then start to get clarity on who we are and gain our confidence in trusting what we believe in. The beautiful thing here is that you can get in tune with your gut and gain confidence to trust that you are the one who knows what is best for you.
Like any skill, it takes practice. When you get good at it, you are stronger, happier and able to purposefully work your way towards what you truly want and not what you are told to do/want/buy/desire.
Realising what we really want is constantly interrupted by the things we have to do all day, every day. By the end of our day, we are too tired to give time to ourselves for inner focus. It can feel easier to have a scroll on the internet before bedtime or read something. But then you have ended your day with other people’s ideas being sold to you and that seeps into your subconscious along with all the other subliminal triggers you absorbed throughout the day. Don’t let this happen to you. Instead, use the time to focus on the inner you.
6 Ways To Get Connected To Your Wants
After your meditation…Journal your experiences:
Have a think about how your day went
Accept the things you were not able to change
Accept the things you can’t change
Enjoy the part of the day/week you liked
Pat yourself on the back for the cool stuff you did
Remember - only you know the true you! There is liberation in knowing this!
Regularly do the exercises above and look back and review your journal over time. You will soon be able to easily build and expand your self-knowledge. This is why successful people meditate regularly. They actively work to know themselves, recognise their gut feelings and trust them. So they are able to stretch themselves to overcome fear or the unknown and move forward into a place where they can confidently make things happen.
It’s an effective process for you to use to reframe your experiences and press on towards your goals. This helps to bolster your confidence in listening and trusting your gut feeling.
Self Awareness helps you to:
Confidently follow your gut
Confidently try new things
Confidently make mistakes
Confidently do what works best for you
My Lovely, this is within you. You know what works best for you because you will have taken the time to explore your actions and your past. You will have the skills to recognise your intuitions that tell you - ‘Yes! Go for it’ or ‘Pass up on this one’.
I have found that when I have made a decision to do something that 'gut-feels' right, the universe aligns with what I truly wanted and gives me abundant assistance. All I had to do was just know what I wanted.
HLB Meditations are focused on areas of self awareness. I give you a fresh new take on meditations to energise your mind. Join me and others in the HLB family who are supercharging their self-awareness, self-confidence and self-knowing. It’s a self-celebration!